Do you ever find yourself feeling stuck, uninspired, unmotivated and left behind in your life?
This is a common feeling to most of us. At some stage in our lives this will happen. If it has happened to you then you know how irritating it feels and if not yet, then wait for it.
Now don’t start throwing stones at me for telling you this and seeming like an agent of doom.
It’s more like a human life cycle.
You feel like you are not where you are supposed to be in life. Things are not where you envisage them to be.
You start comparing yourself to your mates who seem to have the Midas touch, they prosper at whatever they set out to do. Most of them are married, drive ‘big’ cars, travel for holidays abroad and have the best well paying jobs.
Speaking of you, that sounds like a far-fetched dream. You are angry with yourself and blame the universe for throwing bad luck to you. Nowhere close to your reality. The last job you had did not last a year, let alone being too demanding.
Getting rid of this condition and overcoming it is absolutely possible.
There are a couple of things you need to incorporate in your life to move past this stagnating stage. Make it part of your daily habits.
Motivation is what gets you started, Habit is what keeps you going.~Jim Rohn
The two most important things you need to do is;
1.Stand after a fall
Yes, along this journey called life there will be obstacles and you will fall not once, not twice but many times; the secret is to stand after every fall.
Look at it this way. You set a goal to read a self development book like ‘Start with Why’ by Simon Sinek and the plan is to read a chapter everyday.
Your goal plan is to read this book within a month. There is power in setting goals and achieving especially using a visionboard that is best manifested using the law of attraction.
Then suddenly you fall sick for a week unable to read your book let alone even look at it. At the end of the month, you are one week behind your book reading schedule.
Have you failed?
You just stumbled.
You still have a chance to pick that book up and finish reading and grab another one too.
2. Compare yourself not
Theodore Roosevelt said,
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Many a times we feel like we need to be where our mates are in life.
One thing you need to understand is the great plans God has for you. Plans to prosper you.
We are living in our God-given timezone. I am living in my own timezone and so are you, so stop comparing yourself to others.
Let me tell you are story of two young people. Their names are Imani and Amani. They both live in the countryside. They graduate from college and decide to travel to the capital city to find greener pastures.
They believe there is a wealth of opportunities at the capital and chances of getting employed as soon as they arrive are certainly high.
Upon arrival, Imani gets a job immediately while Amani is left knocking doors with no luck.
Several months down the line still nothing for Amani and so he decides to move to another town to keep searching for a job.
Two days on arrival to this new town he lands a good, a well paying job. He calls his friend and they celebrate on phone. They now visit each other from time to time.
Now, the lesson we get from this story is that we are all blessed differently. Our gifts are given to us packaged differently so fight the temptation to compare yourself to others.